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My neighbor and farming buddy across the road passed away this past Wednesday. He had been quite ill for a time. He had been on dialysis and, with a deteriorating condition, he made the decision to stop everything and die at home.
A regional home care company came and set up a bed and oxygen for him in their rather large living room, as the family respected his wishes.
Other than being a friend, he was quite the antique classic car collector (2 1955 fully restored Crown Victorias, 1939 Pontiac Convertible, an Oldsmobile convertible like the one in Rainman) and a very large gun collection with several early and highly sought after names and makes.
He had always expressed concern to me (and to his wife) that he was worried about someone breaking into the the house and stealing the guns. Longrifles and shotguns are very easy to get rid of and resell. Most are locked up in a vault in the basement but he has perhaps 30 or 40 on display.
I just returned from their house. I had gone over to see how they (widow, children, grandchildren) were doing and see if there was anything they needed. His wife said she had a favor to ask. I said, "Stay here while everyone is at the wake?" She said, "How did you know?" I related that Wilbur was always concerned about being away for a while. I went on to tell her that once an obituary is published, there are those that look to see what time the wake is and what time the burial is. This gives them a plan of when to break into the house.
She went on to tell me that she was very upset and concerned about the actions of someone from the homecare company. A young man came to pick up the equipment. When she came from a back room, she found him in another room opening up on of the gun cabinets. He told her he could tell her what every one of these were worth. He continued on just pawing stuff and going through their personal belongings. This greatly upset her but she did not say anything. I told her I knew the company and this needed to be reported. Her response was, "Well..."
I could not stand to hear this and thought this to be one of the most callous, inconsiderate, and incompassionate acts I had ever heard of. With total disregard is disrespect to the family and their grieving, this person did such a thing.
I called the home care company and spoke to one of the supervisors. Surely this person will be dealt with.
So this evening, rather than going to the visitation, I'll be sitting on their front porch with a 9mm strapped to my side and a 12 gauge shotgun nearby. And I'll be doing pretty much the same thing tomorrow instead of going to the funeral.
A son and a grandson live nearby. I am sure the grandson will eventually move in with his grandma. In the long run, everything should be fine and she will not be alone.
But this is quite a disturbing way for an employee of any company to act...going through someone's collections and personal belongings.
A regional home care company came and set up a bed and oxygen for him in their rather large living room, as the family respected his wishes.
Other than being a friend, he was quite the antique classic car collector (2 1955 fully restored Crown Victorias, 1939 Pontiac Convertible, an Oldsmobile convertible like the one in Rainman) and a very large gun collection with several early and highly sought after names and makes.
He had always expressed concern to me (and to his wife) that he was worried about someone breaking into the the house and stealing the guns. Longrifles and shotguns are very easy to get rid of and resell. Most are locked up in a vault in the basement but he has perhaps 30 or 40 on display.
I just returned from their house. I had gone over to see how they (widow, children, grandchildren) were doing and see if there was anything they needed. His wife said she had a favor to ask. I said, "Stay here while everyone is at the wake?" She said, "How did you know?" I related that Wilbur was always concerned about being away for a while. I went on to tell her that once an obituary is published, there are those that look to see what time the wake is and what time the burial is. This gives them a plan of when to break into the house.
She went on to tell me that she was very upset and concerned about the actions of someone from the homecare company. A young man came to pick up the equipment. When she came from a back room, she found him in another room opening up on of the gun cabinets. He told her he could tell her what every one of these were worth. He continued on just pawing stuff and going through their personal belongings. This greatly upset her but she did not say anything. I told her I knew the company and this needed to be reported. Her response was, "Well..."
I could not stand to hear this and thought this to be one of the most callous, inconsiderate, and incompassionate acts I had ever heard of. With total disregard is disrespect to the family and their grieving, this person did such a thing.
I called the home care company and spoke to one of the supervisors. Surely this person will be dealt with.
So this evening, rather than going to the visitation, I'll be sitting on their front porch with a 9mm strapped to my side and a 12 gauge shotgun nearby. And I'll be doing pretty much the same thing tomorrow instead of going to the funeral.
A son and a grandson live nearby. I am sure the grandson will eventually move in with his grandma. In the long run, everything should be fine and she will not be alone.
But this is quite a disturbing way for an employee of any company to act...going through someone's collections and personal belongings.
