"Isn't possible to force a domain owner to give up a name to benfit a whole family?? "
Simply put, no.
Have you considered changing your last name to "Microsoft"?
There are, in fact, a lot of surnames which are owned by people who rent out email addresses and webspace. Believe it or not, there are people who believe that is not "fair" either.
But, as always, I'm fascinated whenever someone wants to talk about what is "fair", so let's go a little further here...
You are saying that he should "give up" the name, or are you saying that he should charge the rest of the family to buy an emailbox? The money from your proposed use of the domain name has to go somewhere, you know.
So, under your definition of "fair", why should he get to keep the money? Or should he also be forced to do so at an "at-cost" basis?
Or, let's say there *is* some way to force him to use the domain name for the entire family under your definition of "fair". Now, who gets
[email protected]? There are plenty of other John Smiths, you know. And, in a family such as yours, it is highly likely that male first names come from a pretty short list. For example, I come from several generations of men named "William" (but was the second son in my family).
I also take it that the custodian of this domain name should probably verify identities, so that people don't just grab up all of the good email addresses.
Have you thought of looking at other TLD's. Again, to take my own name as an example, berryhill.com is registered to someone who hasn't used the domain name for anything for years. But, I did manage to get the .net and the .info.