I am happy (and relieved) to confirm that everything has been made right in this situation. The WhoIS is back in my name and I have control of the PairNIC account for Unique.org.
I think all of us have gotten used to internet companies having awful (or non-extistent customer support), so when I was faced with all of the problems I ran into last night I assumed it would take forever to get them straightened out (if in fact they were ever straightened out at all). As my posts illustrate I was pretty upset about that prospect.
In light of that, I was very surprised to hear back from both PairNIC and SnapNames almost immediately last night when I brought the full extent of the problem to their attention. Both sides got on the case immediately and now, less than 24 hours later everything is as it should be.
I am going to request that a moderator change the title of this thread to "Unique.org Problem Resolved". I don't think it is fair that casual browsers who just scan headlines see one that implies PairNIC screwed up. As I learned last night, they made no mistakes at all and in fact their response times to my inquiries this entire past week have been amazingly fast. They couldn't provide the answers I wanted earlier because they hadn't been given the correct information.
To give you a review of SnapNames performance in this matter, I ordered this particular Snap through one of their resellers - Snaps.com. I did not receive a reply in the first 24 hours after I wrote them about the registration problem but did get one today telling me they were passing it on to SnapNames.com. Honestly, I never expected more from them. I am an Enom reseller and if a technical problem occurred I could only pass it on to Enom (though we are supposed to make at least a token attempt at handling customer support).
I fully expected that SnapNames themselves would be responsible for resolving any problems. They did not hear about this directly from me until last night (PairNIC apparently contacted them earlier on my behalf to try to get the correct registration information. This was before the whole change of WhoIs to a different person and redirection to a porn site occurred).
When I did make direct contact with SnapNames, I received an instant response, and was able to go to bed last night with the assurance they would have all of this sorted out and corrected by the end of the day today. They lived up to that promise.
Mistakes happen in every business. The true test of a company's support system is what they do about the mistakes they make. I am very happy with the way SnapNames performed once they were fully aware of what was going on.
We have all heard the horror stories about stolen domains, botched registrations, etc. - and all of that ran through my mind. Hopefully this case will show that these things don't always end badly, especially when reputable companies are involved. I also appreciate the support you guys from the forum gave me the last 24 hours.